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I : Discipline
Problems and Pain
Delaying Gratification
The Sins of the Father
Problem-Solving and Time
Responsibility
Neuroses and Character Disorders
Escape from Freedom
Dedication to Reality
Transference : The Outdated Map
Openness to Challenge
Withholding Truth
Balancing
The Healthiness of Depression
Renunciation and Rebirth
II : Love
Love Defined
Falling in "Love"
The Myth of Romance Love
More About Ego Boundaries
Dependency
Cathexis Without Love
"Self-Sacrifice"
Love Is Not a Feeling
The Work of Attention
The Risk of Loss
The Risk of Independence
The Risk of Commitment
The Risk of Confrontation
Love Is Disciplined
Love Is Separateness
Love and Psychotherapy
The Mystery of Love
III : Growth and Religion
World Views and Religion
The Religion of Science
The Case of Kathy
The Case of Marcia
The Case of Theodore
The Baby and the Bath Water
Scientific Tunnel Vision